When I was a little girl, my hair was the bane of my existence. Growing up In the Marcia Brady era, I didn't stand a chance. Back then, straightening products & tools weren't as ubiquitous as they are today, so I used what I could find - pantyhose. According to my first grade logic, if I wore pantyhose on my head overnight, I would wake up w/straight hair. So what did I get for a night of looking like a convenience store robber? Curls plastered to my head. Not exactly the look I was going for.
My dear mother, out of neccesity, kept my hair short. She didn't know what to do with it.
Even hair stylists I saw didn't have a clue what to do with it. With each haircut I hoped this would be "the one," the person who knew how to make my hair pretty. No luck, until I met him - the stylist who helped me like my hair. (Hooray for Bryan Piper!) Sadly, that wasn't until college. So, I went through junior high and high school doing the best I could with my curls.
Between Bryan's knowledge and late 80's hairstyles, I finally made peace with my hair, though I still kept it short. In 1992, after graduating from college, I wanted to see what would happen if I tried to grow my hair long. I didn't have much hope, because I had lost so many "who's hair is longest" contests with my sister. Surprisingly, curly hair can grow long and look okay. (Curly hair lesson #1: don't brush it!)
Then came my search for the perfect product. I tried various combination of products over the years. Every now and then I would find a creme product w/hold that would work, but then it would be discontinued. That left me frizzled, literally & figuratively. Up until last fall, my standard combination was some kind of moisturizing creme and mousse. It worked well enough. I would have my share of bad and good hair days, but I knew there had to be a better way. Then I read Curly Girl by Lorraine Massey & Debra Chiel. My hair will never be the same. :)
I found Curly Girl in the Junior Non-Fiction section of our library. I checked it out for my daughter, who has also been blessed with curls. Because it was written by a hairstylist with curls, I had hope. I wasn't disappointed. A few bits of her advice were so good I want to print it on cards and hand it out to the curlies I meet. Instead, I'll settle for blogging about it.
Now for the important part of the post - my advice to others with curly hair:
1. Never brush your hair. (Brush your teeth often, but not your hair.)
2. Finger comb conditioner through your wet hair. Leave the conditioner in. The amount to leave in will vary with hair type and humidity.
3. If you must comb your hair, do it with conditioner, while your hair is wet.
4. The Curly Girl author recommends not shampooing because of the harsh sodium lauryl stuff in shampoos. That didn't work for me. I switched to an organic, no sodium lauryl stuff shampoo and use it every other time. If I have to use a dry scalp shampoo (or if you can't stand the thought of not shampooing), put a little conditioner in your hair before you shampoo to protect your hair. That's also a good thing to try if you struggle with dry hair.
5. Don't twist my hair in a towel when it's wet. Use the "beauty shop" method - lay the towel over my head and gather it at the nape of my neck. Squeeze the excess moisture from my hair.
6. Use a clear gel. Currently, I'm using Tresemme. This, combined with the conditioner I left in, is the "perfect product" I've been looking for. It takes a little trial and error to figure out how much to use. Sometimes I'm a little too "crunchy" and sometimes I'm a little frizzy, most days I do okay.
The Curly Girl book has lots more tips about what to do with it after a wash, but if you simply watch the shampoo use, finger comb and leave in your conditioner, your curls will thank you.
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